It was nothing like I expected

Where was the birth? 
Klaipeda, Lithuania.

Can you describe where the birth was?
I was taken to a local hospital as planned. I was familiar with the hospital and some of the staff but it still felt strange to be admitted there as a patient. My room was big and quite empty, I felt strangely out of place there. I stayed there the whole time.

Who was present at the birth?
My husband was with me, then I had a midwife and a doctor who popped in and out as my labour progressed.

Can you describe the experience of giving birth?
It was nothing like I expected. I remember being in a lot of pain and was trying to walk around the room and the corridor only to be told off by midwife to go back to bed and to stop being so loud. I was quite upset as I could not stay still and felt the need to move around as it helped with the pain. I also felt the need to  scream as the contraction came along. I was not taught any breathing exercises or anything along those lines and the pain really scared me. Although my husband was beside me, he didn’t know how to help me. He was trying his best but I could not bear to be touched. My midwife did not stay with me and she’d only come in if I was getting too loud. I was so scared, I didn’t know what and when things where  suppose to be happening. I was in labour for 12 hours and then my baby girl was born. I felt a bit traumatised by the whole experience. I was happy that my baby was ok, but was not pleased with my midwife or rather very little presence of her. I had to have several stitches which left me unable to sit for quite a while and extended my hospital stay for five days. I felt that even during my five day stay at the hospital things weren’t explained properly. I felt lonely and very tearful. Visitors were only allowed at certain times and for short periods. It took me months to recover physically and psychologically.

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